Recently I received a friend invite on Facebook. I have so far stayed under the radar from any persons from my high school. This was the first. I have no qualms with this person, I barely knew him. He was a popular fellow, football player. And he is friends with just about every person that has ever passed through that school. But honestly, I have no desire to rebuild bridges once burnt down. I don’t care to reminisce about the good old times, or laugh about so-and-so, or see who became what.
Then I started thinking…what does this say about me? It sounds like I have this huge grudge against people I haven’t seen in 10 years. Why should this bother me? Why am I concerned that if I accept this request, 300 more will come flooding in? Maybe it’s just that I don’t even remember most of high school, and really don’t care to try.
Must think more about this. Maybe if I ignore him, he will go away…
I am the same way actually. I see a lot of people in my town that I went to school with, but i never say “hey I remember you!” I just keep low…keep quiet and just hope they don’t recognize me. School was good to me but for some reason I just don’t want to go there…
if you decide not to answer the request he might think that you don’t use facebook. I know people who have the account but don’t use it ever. By the way we missed you last night at knit group. Figured work has you tied down.
I’m with you. High school isn’t one of the highlights of my life. My attitude, right or wrong, is that if they didn’t like me then, why should I want to be friends with them now. Yes, I know people change, but I honestly can’t think of anyone I went to high school with that I really want to meet up with again. Well, there is one, but that’s not in a good way.
You have grown up and moved on. There’s nothing wrong with that.
I routinely go through my “friends” list and get rid of the people I don’t talk to or see any longer. I don’t accept friend requests from people that know someone who knows me but don’t actually know me. There are people from my highschool who did that, but unless I actually talk to them now, I usually just ignore the request or delete it. I didn’t have a great time with high school–even moved half way across the country to get away from a lot of that–so there’s not really any obligation to ‘friend’ them.
I have to say high school was not a good time in my life. I have a few friends that I remember and remember them well and would love to meet them again. But for the most part people weren’t very nice to me and never took the time to know me to see why I was so shy or never at school or other things.
High school just plain outright sucked!
As for facebook requests those are just for my family and a few select friends. I dont think everyone all other the internet needs to be my friends on there.